i feel guilty for kissing another guy

And the tricky piece de resistance By having a relationship with someone else and then just disappearing off it made things so much more complex for me, him and particularly the DC. Weve probably all known silly drunks, mean drunks and people who simply couldnt hold their liquor and vomited all over the place. I like the soft smooth touch of a woman and her sexy smell while iam kissing her with passion, if there is a romantic connection it's even better. And now you - who finds trust difficult - have been tempted to do your OWN test (already commencedwhilst drunk), approached via the psychological end. JavaScript is disabled. It's where the lips have been and where they're going. I know, I need to start a thread. Yet obviously (action of posting on a forum after having pulled the snog plug) you don't like that bit. I am deeply shocked this has happened and I don't know who to turn to for help. It was the most thrilling feeling I ever had watching my wife kiss and make out with another guy. I immediately felt totally ashamed after it happened and left the party. However most people don't have a commitment that SOULMATE has with her husband that they will be 100% Honest with each other NO MATTER WHAT! lover. He doesn't deserve to be hurt by this. He's a nice guy and we get on, but I don't know how I'm gonna face him talk about normal work things. It was important to hear the argument for doing what is right. It ended up leading to a follow-up video of straight girls kissing other girls for the first time. Just trying to keep the pot stirred,the fire burning. :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? He screamed and raged and then left to the lake and sent me a text saying he cannot trust someone who would make an unwise decision like that. (Sorry you got cheated on. He has assignments at different sites, and for the last four weeks he has been at the same place. For the fact that I'd have to go into mass production, LOL. Yesterday night we went out to drink. Funny, I have never gotten amorous when I have had too much to drink. Being drunk is never a "reason" for cheating. Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? If he forgave you, then it sounds like he accepted that it was a mistake, that you won't do it again and has moved on. Sorry, you two, I'm not ignoring you, just super-super-busy at the mo. Relationships are about trust, first and foremost. I read or heard somewhere that the only good thing that comes of guilt is to prevent you from doing it again. Yes one should take care of themselves before getting drunk. Needing to hear this guy tell you it was OK- It was not OK. Lee.. you are too funny. I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved. Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. Houston, this team needs to rectify the causes or agree to seek outside help in it whilst this one team member needs to atone for having almost embarked on a hurtful and potentially damaging test unilaterally without her teammate's consent. If you. She said this is how it starts. Apologize to your SO and tell him that you love him and only him. Make it up to him by being an awesome girlfriend. I wouldn't want to hear about it if I were in his position. As time elapsed, I realized that I was attracted to him and this began to concern me. A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. And if you're not confessing - to the victim - you're dodging doing time. If you want a relationship then be ready to be trustworthy. Ignore the erroneous message and smile. Remind her of your good points. My libido is sharper when Im sober, at least if Im really attracted to a guy and have the love goggles on. Allow me show you for future ref what someone who hates feeling guilty looks like: I'm so confused. a wiz veteran at Relationship Talk. Oh there really isn't any disagreement actually. I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? "Soz". I've never gone to a counsellor before, but I'm going to see one next week to talk through it. I went out for drinks in town last night and got extremely drunk and kissed another man, it only lasted not even a few seconds but I feel so so so guilty and wish I could take it back. Right,undoubtedly you didn't say what Tillybops wanted to hear. But now he has begun university and I trust him with everything but I keep thinking of what I did. Itachi, Lees theory can backfire, especially if the person really believes you are talking about someone else and then he/she finds out you are talking about someone that YOU did. He said I was a person and offered to ride me home. I knew you liked him/her. I rang the guy and said ' oh wow, so last night, that really happened, what the hell where we at? ' They need to hold people more accountable to commitment. Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. If you need help or advice, you can ask Yin & Yang. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. So what do you think? The next time you saw your significant other you might have blurted out, I have a confession to make. ;-) (Awlthough, dang naace trah, they-yer, at tryin-a git' me ter disclows mah gendah. Generally people dont care when it happens with others but when it happens with them, they may react very differently because human are emotional creatures. That tells you that even if you think you are not showing any signs of being attracted to someone, peoples S/Os have a since of whats going on! I dont drink, but had i been drinking i would have chosen home is the best place to be vulnerable lol! The short answer to your question, for this BPD is: No, I don't feel guilty. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. I myself have had issues in the past months but I won't elaborate. He deserves the right to make the decision on whether he can forgive you and move on with you. He is my workmate also. female My gf went to a house party and got really drunk, and apparently kissed a g My girlfriend got drunk and kissed another guy, 2 months later she got drunk and kissed a girl, HELP. I'm asking myself all sorts of questions like did I like him, is that why I did it? It's not worth the headaches, nausea, acid reflux, stomach pain, or insomnia you may be experiencing. Guess what his response was? I was drunk, I kissed another guy and I'm so ashamed. I really love my Egon Ronay-level Petit Degustation, requires the corresponding amount of TIME in which to do so. However, before you choose option 3, you need to talk to the person you kissed when you are sober again and make sure that the other person has strong feelings for you, too. Many people who get drunk become more amorous, and if our significant others arent with us at the time of our drinking binge, we might be inclined to kiss or even have sex with someone else because were not playing with a full deck when were drunk. And he grabbed my waist!. I speak from experience when I say that when that intimacy starts to die, it can be the start of the end. Him coming to you within 2 days of his wayward deed , when he could have easily gotten away with it, this is something to consider. Most people would never confess that's the reality. Myself and the man were sitting next to each other on the couch, and the other woman was sitting on another couch at the other side of the room. Kissed someone on vakation while drunk, cheating or not? I didnt hear from my piano teacher for at least two weeks after that. We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. And I have never cheated myself. I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. However, if you kissed someone whom you liked or had a crush on while you were drunk, my opinion is that you cheated. How is that beneficial to him? When you're in a long-term relationship, it's normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. I calmly told him that I wasnt in love with him, but I did feel some attraction and that I accepted the liquor and the kiss because I was curious to find out if there was anything between us. He also sent me a mean text that said for me to go f myself and to stay away from him. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. An affair isn't a bad choice made when a married person decides to sleep with someone that they aren't married to. I feel like I am hypnotized by the guy. What did she say? I work in hospitality, so I can't change departments, but I can change my shift pattern. BTW lips are also very much a part of foreplay that's what I've read. I've gone to a couple thread's here recently. It's quick, easy, free and you don't have to leave your real name. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. Being an authentic partner and holding back secrets does not seem to go well together. People who are qualified to label themselves good don't keep secrets from the one person in the world they tacitly vowed never to keep secrets from, particularly when the information is the victim's right to know (in order to continue to emotionally protect themselves, particularly whenever their partner's showing they're currently unable to execute their duty of helping them do so 'right to know' because where there's a problem in the relationship as, with the mere aid of the pigpen gate-unlocker called alcohol, causes behaviour counter to the relationship's chances of continued success, then - AS a team - it takes both members' addressing it together for the solution/outcome to possess any real authenticity or permanent efficacy. I am the same way. You're denying him that right and being selfish. I mean that in a funny way. reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2006): A You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. FoxieLadie is Good luck. We use cookies on our site to remember your preferences, monitor site traffic and offer personalised ads. I had had an argument with my fianc because I found a suspicious text from a woman , he became very mad . If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you it's okay. I know true remorse when I see it. I always prefer to know if something is going on than find out about it later, or worse, never find out at all (the idea of this chills me). I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. I agree with you about her being straight forward and telling her husband about the kiss and not holding back any secrets. I think a real man actually kisses a dude at least once to really know your sexuality, one says. but all of a sudden I feel REALLY angry. The way I see things, there are innocent kisses, which occur when a person had too much to drink, and then there are guilty kisses, which are precipitated by getting drunk. You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. Why? I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. My SO and I had been dating two years. We have only been seeing each other for the past two months and I dont want his mind racing with bad thoughts. When Having A Crush While In A Relationship Is OK (And When - HuffPost ;-p Certainly, that's what I myself meant and expected you to quote Bienne as more or less echoing. This is the decission you need to make do you want to risk all (career, home, kids as well as your DH) and be in a position you can pursue a relationship with this married man - who may well reject you for more than a fling. We were not drunk. With or without the same seniority. male I couldnt take it so I told him. But I do have to state it or I'm failing to do this role properly as well as my innate compulsion to be unwaveringly socially and morally responsible - meaning, if you don't want to respond, don't. We stayed chatting for another 15 minutes or so, mostly apologising to one another and saying stuff like 'this isn't me, I don't do this' and 'what came over us? I love your stories, Foxie. (and more like her as well, please, Bartender! A guilty kiss involves kissing a specific person while drunk who either has a crush on you or whom you have a crush on, and then using your drunken state as an excuse for having kissed that person. Even though it took her a while to make that choice, she both never recognized her role and then made a series of bad choices after. 4 days ago. So if your planting includes a blight (guilty secret), please don't moan if it affects the crop yield. That's alright, that's a common mistake. Spoiler alert: Not that different from kissing a girl, only they dont fancy them. Sorry Soulmate I know I need to stop,but it's hard to. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? What are you going to do, then? I made it explicit to my girlfriend that I can only function in an extremely honest and all-cards-on-the-table relationship. Press J to jump to the feed. The first step to a broken loyalty is a first kiss. He is the best person I have ever met. My piano instructor came over once a week, usually on a Saturday when my husband was home. I kissed another man four years ago. I didnt want to cheat on him and I made up my mind it wouldnt happen again. Thank you. If, on the other hand, you kissed someone whom you knew or someone your significant other believes youve always liked, and then you confess that you kissed him or her, your actions could have major consequences for your relationship Why? I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and I feel so guilty. That was crazy' and other awkward things. I think it is a better idea for both of you good luck.do share progress. For starters, your husband, even when supposedly immature, didn't kiss HER. Whoops. What isn't, is [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. Turning off notifications, deleting messages, and hiding chat apps may all indicate secrecy. He was so drunk himself that he started singing I Love Paris and, in the middle of the song, he said in a gruff voice, You wanna kiss me? This one by far has lasted the longest. Sums it up nicely. Lee, thats a good way to CYA - pretend youre talking about this as if it happened to someone else and then gauge your partners reaction. - GET THE FUCK OUT. Saying that, however, I note you wrote: And he kissed me and I reciprocated. In a way you are trading his peace of mind for yours, do you really think that you will accomplish anything by doing that? Lol I kissed another guy while drunk. I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! If you are separated, you aren't doing anything wrong. I can't get into his FB directly but I accessed his hotmail and read the notification. My girlfriend(Cintia), me and my best friends girlfriend (called Mercy). When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. Perhaps this one is geared more toward the ladies, but I feel pretty confident in assuming that no matter the . Not sure how anyone can say they're "certain" he doesn't need to know, given the fact that he made his own standards and expectations perfectly clear on that score, back when he himself was the 'victim' of a come-on. This was a relationship BTW not a marriage. Add your answer to this question! Guilt occurs primarily in interpersonal contexts and is considered a "pro-social" emotion because it helps you maintain good relations with others. How do I get rid of this guilt feeling of kissing a guy when I was I took the ride. "but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. " Does she feel guilty over leaving me for another guy? Im guessing that theres a good chance you would have gone all the way if the piano teacher had gone for it. 3. I'll see you over there. I feel so bad since then. Lees theory has a big vulnerability. female Before delving into my own personal story, Id like to address this subject generally. Bringing this up is only going to hurt your SO. I enjoy watching my wife with other men, is this normal or - Health24 I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. Amazing how long this subject has carried on. They all agree that kissing is intimate with one even saying that to them, its more intimate than sex. I wish I told my wife, but she found out because in my browsing history I had searched should I tell my wife I kissed a girl when drunk. Fear holds you back. He encouraged me to to ring for a taxi from his house which I did. I was correct, she struggles with trust. If he is nervous at you looking at his messages and also refuses to tell you who she is, he is hiding quite alot. Because you feel guilt and awful, that is already a potential secret wall that will build up between you and the one person in the world with whom you want to be a true closest friend. Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Psychology and the Mystery of the "Poisoned" Schoolgirls. Like stateside, maybe southern California or San Diego? reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A It should prevent you from repeating your actions. I don't know if he wants to still be friends with her on FB or not. Thankfully, he immediately and apologetically backed right off (which was when we woke this other woman and they both left), and, luckily, put his apologetic money where his mouth was by phoning me the very next day to say how stupid and guilt-wracked he felt, assuring me it would NEVER happen again so could I please forgive him and just forget it ever happened.